Violence can happen to anyone—males or females, children, teens,
adults, older adults, or people with disabilities. You are not to blame. No
matter what happened, violence is not okay. Violent people usually have many
problems that they find hard to deal with, which can cause them to act out with
Physical abuse includes hitting, pushing, shaking,
slapping, kicking, pinching, choking, strangling, and burning. Physical abuse
may come from a stranger, an acquaintance, or a close friend or family
member. Many victims of abuse know their attacker.
behavior can also hurt you emotionally. You may feel sad or frightened.
Feelings of guilt may prevent you from getting help. But it is important for
you to seek help and continue to get help for yourself as long as you need it.
Talk to your local child or adult protective agency, the police, or a health
professional, such as a doctor, nurse, or counselor. You can also call a local
mental health clinic. Any of these people can help you deal with your feelings,
get medical treatment if needed, and take steps to stop the abuser.
Check your symptoms to decide if and when you should see
a doctor or get other help.
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If you feel threatened, you
must have a
plan for dealing with a threatening situation. If a
family member or someone else has threatened to harm you or your child, seek
If you are no longer living with a violent person, contact the
police to obtain a restraining order if your abuser continues to pursue you and
act violently toward you.
Here are some things you can do to help a friend or
The most important step is to help your friend contact local
domestic violence groups. There are programs across the country that provide
options for safety, legal support, support, and needed information and
services. To find the nearest program:
The most dangerous time for your friend may be when she or
he is leaving the abusive relationship, so any advice about leaving must be
informed and practical.
Violence is learned behavior, so it is
especially important to help your children learn that violence is not a healthy
way to resolve conflict. Living in a violent environment increases your child's
chances of developing behavior problems,
anxiety, post-traumatic stress disorder, poor school
achievement, and lowered expectations for the future. People who are maltreated
as children are more likely to abuse others. If you were ever abused, it is
very important to get treatment so that you learn different ways to resolve
conflict and use appropriate discipline.
If you have been a victim of abuse and continue to have
problems related to the abuse, you may experience mental health problems, such
as depression, anxiety, or
post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). For more
information, see the topics
Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder.
If violence occurs again, call your doctor to decide if and when you need to see your doctor or get other
Prevent violence in your home.
Keep yourself safe from violence.
To prepare for your appointment, see the topic Making the Most of Your Appointment.
If you have made an
appointment with your health professional, you may be able to get the most from
your visit by being prepared to answer the following questions:
If you need immediate help, call 911.
Another resource for help is the National Domestic Violence
Hotline (1-800-799-SAFE, 1-800-799-7233) or see the website at www.ndvh.org for free, confidential counseling and information
about local community resources.
The National Domestic Violence Hotline offers crisis
intervention, information about domestic violence, and referrals to local
service providers for victims of domestic violence (men, women, and teens) and those
calling on their behalf. The hotline is available 24 hours a day, 365 days a
year, in English, Spanish, and other languages. The hotline connects callers to
more than 4,000 shelters and service providers in the United States, Puerto
Rico, and the U.S. Virgin Islands.
December 23, 2011
William H. Blahd, Jr., MD, FACEP - Emergency Medicine & H. Michael O'Connor, MD - Emergency Medicine
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